mike@shiner $ ps -p 7557 -o pid,vsz,rss
PID VSZ RSS
7557 1983664 298536
You'll need to replace '7557' with the process id you're investigating. The meaning of 'VSZ' and 'RSS' is copy and pasted here from the man page:
rss resident set size vsz virtual size in Kbytes (alias vsize)
'RSS' represents the amount of memory resident in RAM. The rest of the memory is held in swap space or the filesystem. 'VSZ' is the amount of virtual memory allocated to the process.